I thought I knew what being tired felt like. I raised three daughters, worked tax busy seasons and studied for two Masters Degrees. However, it wasn’t until my father recently died that I learned the true definition of tired.
There is no doubt about it grief is exhausting.
Your loved one dies. You are in shock. You are asked to make close to 100 decisions in a manner of 48 hours. Which funeral home to use? What day is the funeral? What time? Where? Cremation or casket? Who to call? Etc.
You don’t even “know your own name” and you plan a funeral and greet, visit with and provide food for many friends and relatives.
Whether the death is sudden and a shock to your system or a situation where you have been caregiving for days or weeks or months prior to your loved ones death…you are exhausted. Your body actually feels sore.
Grief takes an incredible amount of energy. It is difficult to concentrate or read or make decisions. You try to sleep but you toss and turn with insomnia. You play the tape over and over again of the last few days or hours of your loved one’s life.
You might be confused and frustrated by how incredibly tired you feel. Your energy is depleted and mundane tasks such as taking a shower, getting dressed, cooking a meal or paying bills overwhelm you and wipe you out. You can hardly take care of yourself, let alone the needs of others.
Know that grief affects you physically and these feelings of fatigue are NORMAL!
Unfortunately, this energy depletion might not be for one day or one week; it might take up to a month to get your strength back.
Fortunately, there are many remedies for exhaustion. You might try vitamins, eating well, walking or exercising in the fresh air and of course trying to rest. Be patient with yourself and practice self-care. Give yourself permission to rest and take time to heal.
Heed the words of Matthew 11:28, “Come to me all who are weary (exhausted) and I will give you rest.”