Last year I wrote a Father’s Day post titled Father’s Day Without A Father…How Does That Work? It was easy to write…my father was alive.
My dad died October 24th so this year Father’s Day is different and difficult as I anticipate exactly how does Father’s Day without a father work?
I heed my own advice I offered a year ago:
- We have a plan.
- We will “celebrate” our dad.
- We will look at photos and share stories.
- We will eat his favorite food and listen to his favorite music.
- We will partake in his favorite hobby.
My Father’s Day without a father will “work” like this. My family will gather together and visit the cemetery. It is the first time we will see dad’s headstone. We will go to Mass together where I will “hear” dad singing and we will pray the “Our Father”, my dad’s last words spoken. We will look at photos of my dad such as the one where he was snow blowing the driveway or baking bread or sitting by the campfire. We will laugh about dad’s quirks and talk about what a great father he was and how lucky we were to have him in our lives. We will share how much we miss him and probably shed some tears. We will eat pizza, pop and popcorn which was our Sunday menu as kids when dad was “cooking” to give mom a break. Of course, we will be listening to country music as we play cards, Whist, his favorite hobby!
We have such a great day planned, I know dad will “show up” somehow, in some way and that’s how Father’s Day without a father will work!