I have some good news to share with those in grief…you can and (most likely will) feel happy again. In my role as a grief specialist, I am often the bearer of bad news in sharing that you must grieve in order to heal and that grieving takes a long time and the process is difficult! However, there is a light at the end of this dark tunnel called grief in that it is possible to feel happy again.
For the newly bereaved who are full of sadness and despair, I am guessing that you might have a hard time believing there is any possibility of ever feeling joyful and happy again. However, it is true and attainable. If you work on your grief you will eventually experience light and happy moments. I am not suggesting that you ever “get over it”; you will always miss your loved one but the intense pangs of grief will lessen and make room for positive and upbeat feelings.
This message is intended to throw a life vest to those who are drowning in their grief. I can offer this carrot of hope only because I have witnessed over and over again the most devastated and grief stricken bereaved, who can barely get themselves out of bed and perform daily functions, work through the grief process and move forward to live full and abundant lives. Do they miss their deceased loved one and experience times of sadness? Absolutely, but they also have many moments filled with joy and happiness.
You can feel happy again by making an intentional decision to work on your grief-feel your feelings, express them and tell your story.
Know and understand that moving forward and healing in your grief does not mean you are “forgetting” or “disrespecting” your deceased loved one. The deceased would not want you to stop living a full life. Honor the deceased by moving forward and fulfilling the purpose for which you were created.
Even though you might be feeling sad and broken now, keep telling yourself that one day you will feel happy again.